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Mostly I Choose Magic

Mostly I Choose Magic | - Image via Taylor Lord Photography

And above all, watch with glittering eyes the whole world around you
because the greatest secrets are always hidden in the most unlikely places.
Those who don’t believe in magic will never find it.
(Roald Dahl)

Hello, lovelies. I hope you are well and having a happy day! Things are busy around here. In 25 days, my Mister and I are getting married!! When we set the date more than one year ago, it felt distant and far off. But now our wedding day is around the corner.

In the past week, I have felt a roller coaster of emotions. This is a big, significant, life-event… with lots of tiny details. Now that we’re in the 30-day window, the wedding planning has become a lot more real. Decisions are no longer hypothetical and “this might be nice,” they are “we’re doing X and not doing Y.” My inner perfectionist has reared her shiny, sparkly head and begun to point out all the millions of things that I should have under control.

And yet, my Mister and I have been together for 6.5 years. We have been through so much. We have traveled the world and cozied up on the couch for so many nights. We know each other, love each other, and have chosen each other. This big party is just one way of sharing that love with our closest friends and family. And at some point, life return to our normal everyday, but as husband & wife.

So, I have been a little distracted, even though I have plans for this blog. I have a full list of posts to share, including an Autumn Playlist (which I’ve had on repeat) and my final recap of our Europe trip (highlights from Edinburgh).

One thing I have been thinking a lot about: the way you do anything is the way you do everything. I am trying to handle this big life event  —  the wedding to-do list, the writing of our vows, the proclamation of our love, and the party that follows — with kindness, respect, and gratitude. I can let my inner perfectionist whip me up into a frenzy (oh boy, has she ever!) or I can let this be magical. In reality, I can have a little of both, but mostly I choose magic.

Image via Taylor Lord Photograpy


This Grand, Extraordinary Adventure

this grand, extraordinary adventure |

The big question is whether you are going to be able to say a hearty yes to your adventure.
(Joseph Campbell)

When I first started blogging, I was fortunate to become “online friends” with a small tribe of fellow bloggers. We followed each other, had video chat dates, and supported one another through the ups and downs of life.  I was always surprised by how we were able to connect so deeply without ever having met in person. To this day, I keep tabs on these girls through social media, emails, hand-written notes, and text messages.

Chelsa Bea is one of those bloggers. If you aren’t following her on This Grand Adventure, hurry over and check it out. Her style, recipes, and overall approach to life are inspiring! We first connected through a holiday gift swap. Afterwards, she asked if I wanted to become pen pals, which was such a gift in itself.

That small act taught me an important lesson about being intentional with friendships.

If you’ve ever watched children on a playground, you can hear them say, “Let’s be friends!” Adults rarely do this, and it’s a shame. In the past few years, I have become more anxious about new friendships. Some of the unnecessary excuses I tell myself include, “I already have friends,” or the classic, “It takes so much work to make new friends.” Anyone who has a good friend knows this just isn’t true! At most, new friends require a little bit of courage and some attention… but it’s totally worth it.

this grand, extraordinary adventure |

Chelsea and I supported each other through exciting changes and some of life’s speed bumps. She got married! I got engaged! We updated our address books several times as each of us moved. We both quit blogging, and then encouraged the other to come back to it. We share a passion for celebrating everyday life and going on adventures, big and small!

As we created this lasting friendship, we talked about meeting up… and it finally happened this past weekend! Before her visit, I was tempted to read through the letters we’ve exchanged, but I resisted the urge. Instead, I trusted that we knew each other and told myself that we’d get along just fine.

Of course, we caught up just like girlfriends do. We chatted poolside, had some serious real talk over chips & queso, and put the pieces together one-by-one. I hoped our friendship would feel genuine and natural in real life… and it did! It was like meeting an old friend after years apart.

I’ve been living in Austin for a full year now, so it was fun to show Chelsea around my new city. There are so many things to do here and the weather was perfect! We walked around town, ate some delicious food, and sipped craft cocktails. We had the most delightful time. As I reflect on the weekend, I feel happy and grateful — for the internet, blogging besties, and friendships.

Image credit: Chelsa Bea of This Grand Adventure


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